I’m Dr Malgorzata Milewicz, a Counselling Psychologist and Integrative Psychotherapist. I’ve been providing psychotherapy for over 15 years.
Many of the people I work with are intelligent and capable people who, despite achieving much in their lives, find relationships unexpectedly difficult. Some struggle to move beyond dating. Others feel lost in committed relationships, find themselves repeatedly hurt or disappointed, or wonder why connection feels so hard.
For others, the struggle is even more private. They have good friends, a loving partner or supportive family relationships, yet the way they feel on the inside doesn’t match the life they have built. They may speak to themselves with a harshness they would never accept from anyone else, find it difficult to value their achievements, trust their own feelings or feel connected to themselves or the people they love.
Many have already spent years trying to understand why they feel this way. They may have reflected on their past, read widely or searched for an explanation. Yet insight alone has brought little lasting change.
Often, the very ways of coping that helped us adapt, belong or succeed earlier in life can become costly as our life circumstances change. What once served us well can get in the way of emotional health — leaving us disconnected from our feelings, uncertain of our needs, or unable to experience the connection we long for.
Psychotherapy offers the opportunity to understand how these ways of coping developed and whether they still serve you today. Past experiences can’t be changed, but they no longer need to determine how you relate to yourself and others. Over time, experiences that once felt overwhelming or impossible to think about can become easier to hold, allowing you to respond to yourself and others with greater flexibility.
If this speaks to your experience, I invite you to get in touch to arrange an initial consultation.